Is this a hard case?
Me:Why do you date who you date, I mean, What is your Idea of the perfect guy?
Her:I dunno, EX's name.
M:How did he make you feel?
H:Um, normal.
Me:You didnt feel excited when around him?
H:Only while we were having sex.
Me:Blah Blah
Don't stop here, keep going
You: What excited you the most about the sex?
Her: X
You: How do you know, when you have X, that it's really good? What does this guy do that gives you X?
Her: Y.
You: So when you have X sex and a guy is doing Y, how does it make you feel?
Her: Z
You: So if you have X sex and someone is doing Y, and you're feeling this amazing sense of Z, wouldn't that be a great thing to have. With me, I know that...
Just keep going, find out everything that turns her on, anchor it to yourself, and push those buttons...
But remember, you should not be eliciting values if you don't have some rapport.