RULE - The rule by which she recognizes a given end value. The rule is the "way that someone knows"... the strategy, the mechanism... the actions... the recognition factors.
Here's an example:
Me: (Value) "What is something that you would want to have... a quality in your life... to be satisfied or happy?"
Her: "Maybe passion..."
Me: (Rule) "So how would you know that you had passion in your life... what kinds of things would you do... how would your outlook and experience reflect this sense of passion... How would you see the world?"
Her: "I would focus on these moments... finding these times when I could forget about everything and just enjoy the moment..."
Me: (Interaction) "What would it be like and what would it give you... to have this sense of passion, where you could focus on these moments... where you could forget about whatever limitations of the past that you once had... and forget about any future anticipation... and just be fully in this moment... enjoying this in just the way that you want it..."
Her: "It would be awesome... it would give me a sense of completion... (Anchor here)
Me: "So if you were to be with someone... where you could feel this passion... where you could fully experience this moment... opening you up to this growing sense of completion... well, with me I think this would be awesome... and what would it be like if you could just step into this part of you... into this experience right now... and fully just immerse yourself in this moment... opening up more and more this whole part of you... where you could be filled with this sense of passion and find it flowing out from you in ways that you
had never even thought possible... with me, this would be awesome..." (Continue to intensify the anchor)
Combine with Anchoring and Intent... and after 3 she will be ready to go wherever you want to lead her...
Adonis