It's best to do this sort of groundwork early in the relationship, but better late than never.
Always be careful with attempts by her to test you, to see if you'll put up with her shit.
You must lay down your company policy :).
If she balks, WALK! Spend your time trying to get something going with another few women. Let her know you CANNOT BE CONTROLLED BY A WOMAN. This may seem draconian. It is. Women need to know a man will not knuckle under to them. Since safety and security are essential feelings for a woman, any guy who is wishy-washy enough to hold her hand because she DEMANDS it fails her test for STRENGTH.
I'm dead serious about this. The other guys here can share horror stories about how they tried to please her by being what she asked, only to find what she asked was a TEST OF BACKBONE. Show her you have one.
No need to play "Tough Guy." No need to reduce your standards of expectation or behavior. If a woman isn't meeting your needs, then you simply have to have the balls to tell her that her behavior is unacceptable to you. Do so without rancor, anger, or frustration.